Blog: Police visit to couple’s home changes how they treat one another

A call to police by a concerned neighbour about a loud argument in the apartment next door resulted in an overwhelmed couple finding new ways to cope.

The call in late October was taken by Sgt. Jeff Simpson, a 20-year vet of the Ottawa Police Service. “First of all, I commend the neighbour who called police immediately so we could deal with it. You never know when a simple argument can escalate into something more serious.”

In speaking to the couple, Sgt. Simpson learned they were sleep-deprived and stressed by the ongoing demands of caring for a sick infant with weekly physiotherapy, occupational therapy and chiropractor visits, in addition to everyday infant care, work pressures and bills to pay.

“It was taking its toll,” he said.

A father himself and a shift worker, Sgt. Simpson understands how hard it can all be. He offered them this advice: “Don’t allow yourselves to be divided by daily obstacles. Always make time for each other and recognize each other’s needs. You’ll be surprised how much easier the other stuff becomes when you make supporting each other your first priority. And your son will benefit most of all.”

A few days later, the woman left a letter for Sgt. Simpson to let him know the impact his words had on their family. “You brought back a sense of hope and peace. Your words have truly changed the manner in which we interact with one another… each day, one lesson and one prayer at a time, we are becoming better versions of ourselves. And it reminded us that it’s okay to ask for help.”

For others struggling, Sgt. Simpson offers similar advice. “Life can be hard no matter what specific problems you have, but it’s easier to face things with support. When you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it.”

Whether you’re looking for tips how to manage your budget, seeking family or couple therapy or want ways to make your household run more smoothly, there are resources available.

• Free walk-in counseling clinics - https://walkincounselling.com/
• Coalition Ottawa - http://www.coalitionottawa.ca/en/find-your-chrc.aspx
• Family Services Ottawa https://familyservicesottawa.org/businesses-employees/
• OCTEVAW (Ottawa Coalition to End Violence Against Women) - https://www.octevaw-cocvff.ca/crisis-resources
• CAS Children’s aid society - https://www.casott.on.ca/